Causes of Vaginismus
Although it can FEEL like a purely physical response, the mind has a huge part to play in the causes of vaginismus
Vaginismus often has several 'ingredients' including the psychological, emotional, physical and sometimes relationship factors.
Many of the women I’ve worked with first assumed the problem was purely physical. They feared something was “wrong” with their vagina - that it was too narrow, too shallow, or that their hymen was blocking penetration.
The reality is that vaginas are stretchy and elastic – when the minds that control them are calm and relaxed!
I have worked with many women who have spent months or even years struggling with dilators, physical and relaxation exercises.
Some have used botox to try and relax the muscles, others have had surgery on their vaginas...and still the vaginismus remains.
When vaginismus occurs, your body is simpy responding to your current thoughts about penetration
Our minds are remarkably powerful and can have an huge impact upon our body.
With the power of our mind and emotions, we have the ability to create a whole host of physical responses:
• We can make our heart race by thinking of a frightening situation
• We can cause a headache by feeling stressed
• We blush when we feel embarrassed
By the same token, simply the dread and fear of penetration can have a very real and physical impact upon how your body responds to it.
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Many people think that vaginismus is caused by factors such as a past trauma or their upbringing. Happily, it's much less deep-rooted than that.
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The two main causes of vaginismus...
1. Negative or fearful thoughts/feelings about penetration, for example:
These aren't always easy to spot, which is why vaginismus can seem to happen 'out of the blue'. But pay more attention, and you'll probably find you can relate to some of the following...
• Catastrophic thoughts about pain and failure
• Feeling alienated and disconnected from your vagina
• Believing that your vagina is abnormal
• Imagining negative outcomes about penetration
• Feelings of squeamishness/disgust towards your vagina
• Lack of knowledge or confidence about penetration
2. Feelings towards your partner can play a role (in some cases):
• Feeling self-conscious or worried about what your partner thinks can make it hard to relax and enjoy intimacy.
• If you close off emotionally, your body often follows.
• Wanting to please your partner or fearing you’ll disappoint him can lead to a lot of pressure on yourself.
• If there’s any tension or resentment in the relationship, it can easily find its way into the bedroom too.
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It's not your fault that you are struggling with vaginismus - most of us have never been taught the invaluable knowledge of how our minds work and the mind/body connection.
Effective treatment of vaginismus lies in gaining the knowledge to understand how your current beliefs and mindset are creating the condition (nothing scary or overly complicated!) and having the tools to change them.
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As embarrassed or uncomfortable as you many feel, I do advise you to seek a medical professional’s opinion if you think that your vaginismus may be caused by a physical issue.