Causes of Vaginismus
Although it can FEEL like a purely physical response, the causes of vaginismus are psychological...
Vaginismus is often a multi-faceted condition and it's important to really understand all the factors that cause it, including psychological, emotional, physical and relationship factors.
So many of the women that I have treated for vaginismus initially attributed the symptom to a physical abnormality, believing that there must be something wrong with their vagina: too narrow, too shallow or their hymen was preventing penetration.
The reality is that vaginas are stretchy and elastic – when the minds that control them are calm and relaxed! I have worked with many women who have spent months or even years struggling with dilators, physical and relaxation exercises.
Some have used botox to try and relax the muscles, others have had surgery on their vaginas...and still the vaginismus remains.
The reality is that your vagina is responding to your current thoughts and beliefs about penetration
Our minds are remarkably powerful and can have an huge impact upon our body.
With the power of our mind and emotions, we have the ability to create a whole host of physical sensations:
• We can make our heart race by thinking of a frightening situation
• We can cause a headache by feeling stressed
• We blush when we feel embarrassed
By the same token, simply the dread and fear of penetration can have a very real and physical impact upon how your body responds to it.
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The two main causes of vaginismus...
Negative thoughts/feelings
about your body and penetration
• Catastrophic thoughts about pain and failure
• Feeling alienated and disconnected from your vagina
• Believing that your vagina is abnormal
•Imagining negative outcomes about penetration
• Feelings of squeamishness or disgust towards your vagina
• Lack of knowledge or confidence around attempting penetration
Feelings towards your partner and relationship dynamics
• Feeling self conscious, inhibited or judged by your partner can cause anxiety/stress.
• If you are emotionally closing down, then your body may do the same.
• Fear of disappointing him will lead to you putting undue pressure on yourself.
• Feelings of resentment towards him can spill out into the bedroom.
Resolve the causes of Vaginismus with The Vaginismus-Free Programme
It's not your fault that you are struggling with vaginismus - most of us have never been taught the invaluable knowledge of how our minds work and how to have good mental health.
Effective treatment of vaginismus lies in gaining the knowledge to understand how your current beliefs and mindset are creating the condition (nothing scary or overly complicated!) and having the tools to change them.
This is achieved through the remarkable and life-changing Vaginismus-Free Programme, where you will learn how to take back control over your thinking and how your body responds.
As embarrassed or uncomfortable as you many feel, it is advised to seek a medical professional’s opinion if you think that your vaginismus may be caused by a physical issue. Occasionally, vaginismus has a physical cause, such as a yeast infection. Being able to eliminate this possibility will help you to focus your search for a cure in the correct direction.
