Even female doctors suffer with vaginismus

By Cara Mason

It often surprises people to learn that many of the women who seek help from Vaginismus-Free Programme are doctors. These are highly educated, capable, and caring professionals who spend their days helping others.

And yet, behind closed doors, they quietly struggle with vaginismus...

Vaginismus doesn’t discriminate. It affects women from all walks of life - including those who understand anatomy, physiology, and psychology better than most. Knowledge alone doesn’t make the body relax or make intimacy feel safe.

Many of my doctor clients tell me they feel an extra layer of shame: “I should be able to fix this. I’m a doctor.” But vaginismus isn’t something you “should” be able to fix through willpower or medical understanding. It’s a deeply learned protective response — and one that can be unlearned with the right approach.

Dr Ruchi explains this in her wonderfully honest and open video...

Ruchi: 'I'm very proud to say I've been able to have penetrative sex with my husband which was a dream I was wanting to shout from rooftops '

After 14 years of marriage, Ruchi had almost given up hope of ever beating vaginismus and had an unnecessary hymen removal. She found the Vaginismus-Free Programme and says it's the best investment she has ever made in her life.

What I love most about working with doctors is how quickly they progress once they’re given the right tools. They’re used to learning, they follow guidance well, and they’re motivated to get results - which means transformation can happen fast.

If you’re a doctor who quietly relates to this, please know: you’re not alone, and nothing about your profession makes you immune to being human. Healing is possible, and you deserve that freedom just as much as the patients you care for every day.

Below are some more inspiring words that these doctors who are now vaginismus-free wanted to share with you...

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Dr Nisha, 28

As a doctor I felt that perhaps there was a pathological cause. The Vaginismus-Free Programme is honestly a game changer.

My complete outlook on both vaginismus and general life changed after my first few sessions with with Cara. Within 6 weeks my vaginismus was cured and I cannot thank Cara enough.

Cara is extremely supportive and encouraging and helps guide you through the programme in a proactive way. Cara’s expertise really helped me challenge my thoughts and strengthen my confidence. The Vaginismus-Free programme is life changing"

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Dr Fiona, 29

I am having, dare I say it, good sex! Not just penetration

I am a medical doctor and thought I knew everything about vaginismus. I read endless articles about tense vaginal muscles and physical therapies such as dilators and even botox therapy. Within 20 minutes of starting the Vaginismus-Free Programme I learnt vaginismus is really a psychological issue and a problem with unhelpful thoughts...

I am a medical doctor and thought I knew everything about vaginismus. I read endless articles about tense vaginal muscles and physical therapies such as dilators and even botox therapy. Within 20 minutes of starting the Vaginismus-Free Programme I learnt vaginismus is really a psychological issue and a problem with unhelpful thoughts about processing.

I had tried other interventions before; counselling, isolated dilator use and reading lots about the causes of vaginismus, none of which had much impact other than to make me feel more desperately sad when they didn't work. After years of ignoring the problem I reached a point after meeting a new partner when I knew I had to try again. Reading about the Vaginismus-Free Programme, it seemed too good to be true be honest but I wanted to try. The testimonials were outstanding and I felt really inspired and excited that it might actually work.

I now feel like a different person. This may sound like a dramatic exaggeration but I really do. I have gained so much personal insight it really is quite amazing. I am having, dare I say it, good sex! Not just penetration. I feel strong and confident with a sense of power I have never had and it's great.

The best part is this means it's so treatable with great results from simple techniques and guidance from the Vaginismus-Free Programme. As well as benefiting personally, I am thrilled I have this resource to direct my own patients to.

The impact the Vaginismus-Free Programme has gone way beyond curing my vaginismus and I will be eternally grateful. I am so grateful to The Vaginismus-Free Programme and to Cara Mason for guiding me through this process. It is incredible work you do and I am so glad I did this. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

Read Fiona's full story...
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Dr Natalie

As a GP, I had spent a long time thinking that perhaps there was a physical cause for this. I would highly recommended this programme.

As a GP, I had spent a long time thinking that perhaps there was a physical cause for this. However I also felt like this was a ‘catch 22’ situation because I did not feel comfortable enough to go for an examination.

I was getting increasingly frustrated as I did not feel I was making any progress with it, despite regular reviews with a (very good, very kind and very patient) gynaecologist and trying to regularly use dilators.

My outlook changed after my first consultation with Cara. I realised not only would this programme likely help me with vaginismus, but with other aspects of my life.

‘Vaginismus-Free’ enabled me to look at myself, my strengths, my weaknesses, my self-confidence, and my perceptions of things. Six months later, my husband and I were able to have successful penetrative sex, and we still are!

The programme also helped me in lots of other aspects -my work, friendships and my general outlook in things. I would highly recommended this programme. Cara was absolutely fantastic – very patient, enthusiastic, and also questioned me whenever she felt my thought processes may be deleterious!

Read Natalie's full story...
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Dr Suzi, 41

I am now confidently transitioning to sex. I can say without exaggeration that this programme has been life changing for me.

As a GP I felt I should have understood vaginismus. I also felt quite embarrassed to speak about it, perhaps because I was experiencing it despite having a clinical background. I had tried all the "physical" routes as I believed this was the underlying problem, including the local vulval pain clinic, pelvic physiotherapy, I was even about to book private Botox treatment!

As a GP I felt I should have understood vaginismus. I also felt quite embarrassed to speak about it, perhaps because I was experiencing it despite having a clinical background. I had tried all the "physical" routes as I believed this was the underlying problem, including the local vulval pain clinic, pelvic physiotherapy, I was even about to book private Botox treatment!

When nothing worked after a few years, I desperately searched the internet for any other private clinics without a phenomenal cost and stumbled across the Vaginismus-Free Programme. Honestly, I dismissed quite a few times because I did not believe that for me, there was any psychological basis to my problem. However, one day, I decided to read the testimonials page and was blown away by the comments! I began to wonder whether I had been totally misinformed all this time about vaginismus and decided to give it a go, I had absolutely nothing to lose.

Since starting the programme I have made huge strides in dilator exercises that I could never have imagined being able to do.I am now confidently transitioning to sex. I can only say what I have gained from this programme has exceeded my expectations beyond just vaginismus. I would advise trying this programme, to anyone who believes, like I did, that nothing will work. I can say without exaggeration that this programme has been life-changing for me"

Read Suzi's full story...

If you’re a GP or healthcare professional living with vaginismus, please know that awareness alone isn’t enough, but it’s the perfect place to start.

You already understand the body; now it’s about helping yours feel truly safe again. The same curiosity and compassion you offer your patients can guide you through your own healing. You don’t have to keep tolerating pain or avoidance in silence - there’s an effective, evidence-based path to full recovery, and you can absolutely reach it.

You’ve helped so many others; now it’s time to let someone help you!

Would YOU love to overcome vaginismus?

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