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The key differences between The Thrive Programme and other vaginismus treatments

It can be really quite confusing and daunting when deciding which treatment path to take

The Cure your Vaginismus and Thrive Programme offers such a completely different and holistic approach to curing Vaginismus, it really can't be compared to any other intervention available. Below, I describe how the programme differs to the other mainsteam treatments so that you can make more of an informed choice about what is best for you.

Comparisons with Hypnotherapy

I was a hypnotherapist for many years before the Thrive Programme was even created, so this section is written from a position of first-hand experience.

The appeal of hypnotherapy is entirely understandable. If you feel powerless about overcoming vaginismus and are desperate for a cure, who wouldn't like the idea of being 'put out to sleep' to find that your problems are gone when you wake up! And this can indeed sometimes be the case when a person has a very simple symptom and if their mind is conducive to absorbing and responding to hypnotic suggestions.

However, ALL psychosomatic symptoms, including vaginismus, are caused by specific beliefs and ways of thinking and responding. Therefore, in order to permanently overcome vaginismus, the most empowering thing we can do is really understand and address what is happening behind the scenes to cause the vaginal tension. The aim of hypnosis is to suggest away symptoms. However, the physical response of vaginismus is only the END RESULT of what we really need to focus on.

Hypnotherapy and Vaginismus

The CAUSE can be a whole number of factors including our beliefs about sex and our body, our social anxiety with our partner, feelings of being out of control, etc. Therefore, unless these primary issues are addressed, any positive results gained from hypnotherapy may only be temporary.

Hypnosis may well help to give someone an initial boost in the right direction, but without the knowledge or insight to support new thinking and behaviour, we run the risk of quickly undoing the hypnotic suggestions by reverting back to old, familiar habits and patterns of responding.

Additionally, it can be easy to attribute any successes achieved after a hypnotherapy session to the hypnotherapist or the hypnotic process. This is shaky ground! If you believe that improvements were due to something that was done TO you, rather than viewing it as something YOU are doing, it's difficult to give yourself credit for them and understand how to maintain them. With the Thrive Programme, you own your own successes, which is a wonderful, empowering feeling. They are understandable and predictable. You'll know exactly what you did to achieve them and that gives you the power to continue to make positive changes in order to reach your goal!

Comparisons with technique-based interventions

The Cure you Vaginismus and Thrive Programme gives you essential and unique insight so that you understand ALL the factors that are creating your vaginismus. The Programme will teach you how to regain control over your thinking and responses and in order that your body does what you want it to do. We focus upon resolving the cause, rather than just the symptom.

The Thrive Programme doesn’t just focus upon giving you some isolated tools and techniques in an attempt to reduce your anxiety and relax your vaginal muscles. These approaches are ‘fire-fighting’ – trying to control or reduce the anxiety AFTER it has been created it by our thinking. Often people tire quickly of having to maintain this level of effort of fending off unwanted thoughts - it's really hard work!

Likewise, the value of dilator use alone is often limited because they only tackle vaginismus on a purely physical level. Unless their use is accompanied by helpful cognitive insights and knowledge, the progress achieved with them is often slow and/or temporary.

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Counselling / therapies that focus upon the past

Counselling can be beneficial by allowing a client to off-load or talk through a problem. This is particularly useful if that person is unable to talk to friends or family. However, the disadvantage of counselling can be that you may find yourself going over old ground, dredging up past hurts and negative experiences but with no resolution or change of perspective.

This can be particularly the case with counselling that focuses upon childhood experiences. A recent client of mine had been told by her counsellor that her vaginismus was caused by the emotional response to her father dying when she was ten years old. This isn’t just disempowering….it’s just simply not true!

Very often, when we feel unhappy with ourselves or our lives in the here and now but feel powerless to make changes, we look back to their past in the hope of resolving our current problems. However, just by being able to trace back in time to when a problem or anxiety first occurred, doesn’t necessarily mean that you feel empowered to overcome problems or change your life now.

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The Thrive Programme focuses upon your beliefs and thoughts and responses TODAY, regardless of how they may have been created in the past. Which is great because we can’t change the past!

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