Women with vaginismus hold a number of negative and limiting beliefs about the condition and their ability to overcome it. Every one of these beliefs will cause anxiety and will be a hindrance to resolving it. Below are ten of the most common limiting beliefs that my previous clients expressed at the start of the programme.
How many do you believe?
- I believe that my vagina is physically abnormal
- I am less ‘womanly’ because of the vaginismus
- If I have sex I will tear or bleed
- I am very fearful of sex
- I can feel disgust at the thought of my vagina or having sexual activity
- I fear that I will always have vaginismus
- I feel very uncomfortable discussing vaginismus with my partner or those closest to me
- Vaginismus has a big negative impact upon my relationship / I avoid relationships
- I have little or no control over my body’s response to penetration
- I have little or no control over my thoughts about penetration
Results of data – the good news!
Analysis of data gathered from my previous client’s belief scores reveals that on average, the woman held nearly 6.5 of the above limiting beliefs at the start of the Thrive Programme. This score decreased to just 0.5 upon completion (their beliefs were measured again in their final Thrive session).
At the start of the programme, two thirds of clients held the belief that their vagina is physically abnormal. Upon completion of the programme, not one woman held that belief.
At the start of the programme, 70% of clients believed that they would always have vaginismus. At the end of their programme not one woman believed that.
I hope this inspires you and encourages you to believe that no matter how stuck you may feel at the moment, no matter how strongly you believe you will never get over vaginismus – there is an answer.