Louise's Journey to overcoming Vaginismus and Thriving
Louise shares her personal story of how vaginismus affected her and her experience of going
through the Thrive Programme to cure it. I'm incredibly grateful to Louise for sharing the passion
she has for the programme in order to encourage other women to seek help. Thank you Louise!
My life with vaginismus - before the Thrive Programme
"Bear with me, it’s a long one but it’s important to tell my whole story in the hope it can help someone else 🙂
I had suffered from vaginismus for as long as I can remember. Although I could have penetrative sex it wasn’t always the most comfortable let alone enjoyable experience. I took myself to the doctor at 17 years old knowing something wasn’t right and it didn’t take them long to diagnose the vaginismus and refer me to psychosexual therapy.
Back then at that age I wasn’t accepting of vaginismus and just wanted to bury my head in the sand and pretend it wasn’t happening, this went on for a number of years. I also tried several online help sites and bought several books that only ever confused me and made me panic that something was really wrong with me.
It also didn’t help when I went for my routine cervical cancel screenings to be told I was ‘very small’ down there. As time went on, I noticed I also had a small tear at the opening to my vagina that would occur after sex and then take a couple of days to heal, which was then happening every time which just in my mind, confirmed there was definitely something wrong with me. After several trips to the hospital and examinations by several consultants they carried out a routine operation called a fentons procedure.
Shortly after that was done my partner at the time left and I knew that it was the perfect time for me to finally sort the vaginismus once and for all, doing it for me and no one else, which is when I took to the internet and come across Cara and the Thrive Programme.
Going through the Programme...
From the moment I met Cara on our first online appointment I felt completely at ease and I started making huge progress from the very first week.
From the second week I was practicing my physical exercises that just went from strength to strength, progressing with them quicker than I ever thought possible. My whole life around me started to change because I started to change, I began to become more confident in my own skin and I finally began to understand who I was, why I was thinking the way I did and learning how to change all of that for the better.
I learned an unbelievable amount about myself and who I was, why I thought in a certain way and invaluable knowledge and skills on how to change certain things to become a better version of me.
By the end of my time with Cara, so in 6 very short weeks I was using a penis sized dildo comfortably and I’ve since gone on to have enjoyable penetrative sex.
Yes it’s a big investment financially, but can you really put a price on personal development? Surely, it's the best money you'll ever spend bearing in mind the longest relationship you will ever have is with yourself. You spend all your time with you and the thoughts that go round in your head. Plus I watched review videos and read the reviews and it was helping so many other women so there was no reason why it couldn’t help me too if I fully committed and gave it everything I could.
My life after the Thrive Programme
I'm not just saying this, it has changed my life!!!
I think about pretty much everything in a completely different way now to how I did before. Small things that would have got to me before lingered on my mind for ages causing me anxiety now come and go very quickly. I'm more confident in my own skin than I've ever been before (I actually love my small boobs 🙂 never thought that would ever happen).
I have always been a happy bubbly person but now that’s so much stronger and I am truly happy and beyond content with my life and everything and everyone in it. What more could I ask for. I’m super proud of myself for being brave enough to actually take action and make change 🙂
If you’re reading this and suffering with vaginismus you can overcome it just like I have. As long as you fully commit, remain focussed and complete all the work set each week I am confident you’ll overcome vaginismus and your life will change for the better."